Parents frequently experience embarrassment when their kids act up in public and throw tantrums. Managing pre-schooler behaviour problems can be a daunting task, but it’s not impossible. Many parents feel ashamed and might deal with such situations inappropriately which could trigger stress and negative thoughts in pre-schoolers. Let’s discuss how to manage these bouts of temper in a more mindful and effective way.
Bring games or books that they may enjoy in their spare time.
Young kids may have a high level of hyperactivity, which makes them feel bored very easily. To keep the excitement levels high, engage your kids in their favourite pastime with you if you plan to stay at the venue for a bit longer. You can also carry Books or games with you so that they are also learning something new. Avoid giving them access to cell phones, so that you are keeping a tab on their screen time.
Saying “NO” might trigger them
Sometimes kids get upset when they have to hear ‘NO’ for something they deeply care about. Say Sure but explain why the moment is not appropriate. When dealing with children in a public setting, making them understand about the cons of their mischief is important. Use phrases like “Yes, we’ll do that, but not right now,” “Yes, you can have snacks in five minutes, but not right now,” and “Yes, you can play with the toy when it’s your turn.”
Engage children in creative pursuits
The greatest way to reduce your preschool temper tantrums in public places is to plan engaging activities with them. Enrolling children in lessons like art and craft, summer school, dancing, music, and theatre can help them develop their patience and their cognitive skills.
Look for the true cause
Temper outbursts don’t just happen in kids. Their inappropriate behaviour in public places must have a cause. Your youngster may have temper tantrums in front of others if they are irritated or instigated by a particular incident. Recognize that your child is struggling, not because you are struggling.
Set aside the humiliation in front of others
Understand that your child’s well-being is what matters to you the most in the end. You could find that your relationship with your child suffers if you are preoccupied with other people’s opinions and judgements all the time. Due to their sensitivity, children require their parents’ undivided love and care. Those who pass judgement on you won’t show up to look after your child.
Be understanding and comforting
When these instances of preschool behaviour problems occur, parents immediately try to fix/stop them immediately. Your child’s brain is likely operating emotionally, which is why you should be rather compassionate about their feelings. If you prioritise logic and reasoning in this situation, they will try to understand your perspective better. Say something like, “I know you’re upset; tell me what’s upsetting you.” Your caring nature will make them feel more comfortable and they will cool down eventually.
Conclusion
Parents should keep the following in mind before dealing with preschool temper tantrums.
Not you; your child is going through a difficult period.
You can handle your children more gently when you are calmer.
Use emotion and rationality, to show them your perspective.
Nobody who is criticising you will take care of your children.